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I always assumed the bulk of it was because of all the pressure to sleep around, and I still think that's a big part of it. Of course there is backlash! For the women who wanted to sleep around more, more freedom to do so has been (mostly) good, but why did it have to come with an additional pressure that we ALL do it?

The idea that everyone really wants the same thing, and sometimes needs to be pressured into it, seems to be a big chunk of the problem here (as in many other cases - whether to have children springs to mind).

Of course it's more complicated than this, as you show really well here.

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Fame sucks ass even with status.

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Which ATO eps would you recommend most highly?

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Apr 19, 2022Liked by Katherine Dee

I think the problem with the "sex negativity" discourse is it conflates 2 very different ideologies:

1) the social conservatives who idealize tradcath life, think feminism went too far and hurt women, are critical of sex work from a "coarsening of society" perspective, and want women to settle down into earlier marriage/childrearing and be "submissive" as a tradeoff for a non-porn-addled, breadwinner husband.

2) the FDS (Female Dating Strategy) types who blame men for the sexual revolution's failures, are critical of sex work from a feminist standpoint, see men paying for dates as a "patriarchy tax" and not something the woman needs to reciprocate emotionally, and want women to withhold sex and stay single unless they can find a man who meets specific standards of high effort in relationships and financial/mental stability.

These people are not even remotely the same. In fact, they hate each other.

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Incredible! I have just found this substack and for a while have been trying to find some writing on this subject. It reminds me a lot of the mid-late 2010s 4chan inspired tumblrs whose "cultural center of gravity" so to speak seems to have moved over to tiktok.

What is also really amazing is the nostalgia for that very same 4chan inspired internet culture (amongst others, for sure) from people under 18, which I can't recall seeing in the 2010s.

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> They might jokingly identify with Lain from the anime Serial Experiments Lain, etc.

I would just like to point out that I have *never* seen a cis woman identify herself with Lain, jokingly or otherwise. That show is the tr*nime par excellence, for the reasons described here: https://archive.amarna-forum.net/amarna/amarnite_on_the_lain_ideal.jpg

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Finally subscribed - the content goes from strength to strength! You're also just a very good aggregator (I like the term 'magpie') . You have a high ROI on the people you feature in your stuff.

Also: you remarked in an earlier post around New Year that audio is "not your medium" - I disagree, but I'm sure you have good reason for thinking it isn't.

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Walking into a millenial's home I would expect to find a stapler on a desk with a little tag that says "stapler" on it and "desk" on the desk, and a little tag on the toilet that says "toilet." You've fallen victim to your generation's manic desire to label everything. Being choosy about partners doesn't make one "sex negative"; usually it just makes one female, though plenty of men are that way too and catch hell for it. There have always been "believe everything" 19 year old girls, and 50 year old women who have been around the block with men and are sick of their shit. We don't need to label them as anything but women; we certainly never needed to in the past.

This is simply a terrible time in history to be a woman. I won't bore you with tales about why it's no shock that witch burnings happened during the Reformation, a time when people were quite literally terrified they were worshipping the wrong god and would go to hell. Or that the worst beat down of suffragettes was during the first year of the Spanish Flu Epidemic, a time when women were considered insane if they sought an orgasm. During times of social, political, and pandemic upheaval, women are blamed for everything. Everything. I've been called this "Karen" thing more times than I can count, all by white people, usually white men who didn't care for how I stood up to them. Our rights, including reproductive freedom, are fading away into the morass of women-hate. And it's going to be years before it calms down. I agree that these labels are misused, I just don't see ANY use for them that isn't bad for women. Meanwhile I'll twiddle my thumbs, and hope no one finds a match.

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Excellent article! I’m new to your content and I love how eclectic your thinking is as well as how you present it. Thank you for sharing.

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deletedMar 10, 2022·edited Mar 10, 2022
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deletedMar 9, 2022Liked by Katherine Dee
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